Don't let anyone treat you like you're silver You are GOLD.

Hey guys, how you doing?

LOL, I bet you all have given up on me.

I did get all your encouraging emails to continue writing but I failed. I failed this blog. I failed myself. Once upon a time my blog was the only beautiful thing about my life and then I got a job and expectations started to rise and so much pressure started arising and then I lost my will to write.

I apologise.

I sincerely apologise.

Y’all were rooting for me in your own little way and I failed you.

I do hope you guys get to read this piece though.

Straight to the topic that finally got me writing again. Today I am going to be talking about value systems and how it is important to always always know your worth and not compromise on the quality that you associate yourself with.

Recently, I met this random person. We are going to call him Mr X. We got talking via social media and finally, I decided to meet with him. You know, take this conversation to the real world. Turns out he is a really cool dude and all. He's well spoken, well put together and just my exact spec (FYI, I don't judge people based on their physical attributes. I judge them based on the strength of their character).

Thing is, after my last relationship that didn't quite work out, I gave up on men and love. They don't deserve me (insert a straight face smiley here please). For real though. I just felt like it wouldn't hurt to get the minutest form of attention from a man, now would it?

After seeing him four different times, I noticed two distinct things. The quality of date venues he took me to kept declining. Also, the amount of money he gives me for transportation also kept declining. My take on this is that, the more he saw me, I mean the more I made myself readily available, the more he slipped. Like he must be thinking "She's not all that, why put in so much effort to impress her?"

For me, way I value people/ relationships is that I won't create time for you if you are not contributing to my life positively. Likewise, the more I see someone, the more I tend to give to the person. Yes, I am a loner but if I choose to spend time with you then it is because I value you and see something in you (this is not even love related. Chill).

Now, It is not the money he gives me that is the main issue (it is an issue nonetheless), it is how comfortable he seems to be. Thing is, it is not easy trying to restructure a person's mindset on what his value system should look like. It is a learned behaviour that takes a lot to alter. That is the reason why I decided to write this piece.

Look, I rate myself. I am not beautiful. I am not robustly endowed but I am not ordinary. I am not basic. I am smart, I am goodlooking, I am sound, I am entertaining. I am not silver. I am not an economy ticket. I am fucking GOLD. G-O-L-D! Now, it would have been easy for me to say "Oh, I enjoy his company and I will see how this pans out". Guess what? I am not settling. I will not say because the only serious man I currently like resides in Abuja and is not readily available to me I will continue with this dude. Lol. I know my value and it surely doesn't match his value proposition so I am moving on.

My story might not be entirely similar to yours but I am hoping you get the drift. Queen, don't settle. Don't plead the case of the half bread. Stick to your value. Be true to yourself. Don't let anybody price your market. Your market value should always be on the rise. Keep bettering yourself. Keep working on yourself. Keep pushing the limits of what is obtainable.

Dear Queen, you are not ordinary. Your scars make you even more beautiful. You are no silver. You are pure gold. Thing is, I can't brainwash you to believe this. I can only hope that one day you get to that point in your life where you realise that going after temporal happiness will never fulfil you and the way other people treat you is dependent on how you treat yourself.

And that is it!

XOXO,

The lagos rebel.

The Friday Everything Changed... 12/2/2016

Last Friday was definitely one to remember. I had gone out to source content for my blog and I had an amazing time.

1.       I went to the Rele Art gallery.

2.       I got bounced at The Long Bar simply because I am a lady and I was going in alone (that is a story for another day.)

3.       On coming out of the long bar, I met with Jyd (Jide) of the bond band. Now, this is a new band and they were going to perform at hotel bon voyage and because of how instantaneous I am, I went along with them to the pool section of the hotel where they were set to perform live. The band is made of about 6 men and a lady. I had granted them an interview and promised them a feature on my blog and was really looking forward to doing so. Continue for more:

KANYE WEST is trending and no his album hasn't dropped, people just love the new #kanyeAnalPlaylist. Oops!

What was life without twitter? Can you remember?

What's up rebels!

So I am back with another one. Just sit back and make sure you have you some pop corn because things are about to get petty. Lol. You remember Amber Rose and her epic Wednesday night clap back that shut down twitter? if you don't, go here.

In case you are wondering what the kanye West/ Wiz Khalifa beef is all about.

Hi rebels. What's up? What have you all been upto? Well, I have been on twitter living off gossip. I mean, January should be a whole year man. It has been beef after beef and guess where it has been going down? You guessed right. TWITTER! grab your seats rebels as the real detective is about to dive into the real gist with all of you.

Apparently, kanye west is done with his album which would be made available to the public on February 11th 2016, the same day when he would be showing his yeezy season 3 collection. So, kanye decided to change his album name from SWISH to WAVES last minute kinda.

Every body but Wiz Khalifa and a group called WAVVES was cool with the album change.

New year motivation: Count Not Your Losses, Stay Thankful!

I always love to start the year on a clean slate so as soon as I got back from my home town, I decided to run a few tests at a hospital. I tested positive to typhoid and negative to malaria so I started treatment. During the course of treating my self I started having a major reaction to something and I started having tiny boil- like stuffs all around my arms, back, neck, laps and stomach. I felt horrible because my skin is my pride. I have soft, dark and almost spotless skin. Now imagine how sad I must feel. Plus I had made plans to go out more this year.

There's something about these male models

I can't quite place it but for a very long time now, I have had this distinct fascination for male models. Maybe because of how the glossy magazine papers portray them as gods on earth or their perfect features or their swag or some unexplainable reason. They always seem to know that women would come to drool over them thence they strike sexy poses with very astute facial expressions that somehow manage to make maidens swoon.

How do they even do it? Stone washed rock hard abs, chiselled jaws, waxed skins, hair to kill for... really, what is there not to desire about them.

About The Weekend

Hi rebels! Oh, it's Monday. How are you doing? How was your weekend? Oh well, mine was very eventful what with my girlfriend's birthday and all. You know what? I can never understand how we get to Monday so fast. I close my eyes on Friday and vroom it's Monday when I open my eyes. Lol. Does any other person feel that way too? On to other things, I am introducing a new segment to the blog. About the weekend will serve as a recap of all the news worthy events that went on during the weekend. Are you up to the task? Well let us find out.

One of our favourite couples might be getting back together afterall. Yaaaay! 

37 year old Nicole Scherzinger and 30 year old Lewis Hamilton have been spending time together lately. Hmm. They had broken off their 7- year on-and-off relationship in February but it appears that the couple still have the hots for each other. They enjoyed a night out on Friday evening in London.  This follows after they were pictured at popular Soho hotpot, the box.

Meanwhile, I love them colours popping on Nicole. She's wearing a burnt orange over coat, a magenta silk blouse from the exclusive balmain × H&M range, denim boyfriend jeans and burgundy detailed courts.

Diary: We turned up for bae

Oh so yeah, yesterday happened.
My girl, M, clocked 23 yesterday and she hit me up quite late that we were going to party all night. I told my dad and he granted me permission to spend the night out. After all my house chores and obligations, I finally left for her house at Mary land.

I got lost. Don't get me wrong, I had been at her place several times but not in the last 3 years so you can just imagine. I arrived at the bus stop and got confused. Back then there used to be a filling station and an then three eateries residing in an open space so just imagine my shock when I got there and there was only Mr biggs and the once lively environment was a ghost town. Omg! I chartered a tricycle and had it take me different places including Isaac John Street in GRA all in tge bid to locate the gas station with three eateries. Lol. All this while, I couldn't reach my dear friend. Finally, after what seemed like ages, I got through to her and I got the right direction. Turned out that where I initially stopped was the right place afterall. Whew!

There was little time so I just got in a car with all her other friends and then we went to the mall at ikeja. I was a really distraught because I had thought we would have stopped by at a pre- arranged crib so I could change into my party wear. I ended up changing in the toilet at the mall. That was not cool but I just didn't want to ruin her day with an argument because she is my bitch and I love her. Up next we chilled at the rhapsody bar for a while. She bought drinks. Finally by a few minutes past 11, we headed for yet another bar.

Now, a friend of hers had agreed to host M at shaunz bar. Well, we were not early enough to participate in the karaoke. The host only provided a bottle of champagne for us. The place wasn't exactly what we had in mind but man did we let that dampen our mood? No. Did we turn up? Yes. M had an amazing time and at about 2am we left the venue. M had a friend who stayed on the island and so we slept over and later this morning, he drove us home.

Here is to wishing M an amazing 23rd birthday. I love you and I want the best things for you.

I was really glad that I could celebrate with M but this experience made me all aware of the fact that I practically know nowhere in Lagos. Lol. I promise to go out more and then give you first hand gist.

Xoxo,
The Lagos Rebel 😍